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  need opinion

  • 27 May 2012
  • Posted by sarahkhan01

  i had a boyfriend n he was my best friend too. he loved me alot n i love him too. we brokeup last year but whenever we used to meet we used to get back together. so he started avoiding me because he just started h...

  i had a boyfriend n he was my best friend too. he loved me alot n i love him too. we brokeup last year but whenever we used to meet we used to get back together. so he started avoiding me because he just started his career and cant marry me atleast till 4 years. so he waants me to move on n forget him, he did not talk to me for 7 months and through my common friend iget his updates
  so he is still single and he said to me he cant love anyone as he did to me. now after so may months we are talking to each other but just regarding work or when i need some help. i know he still loves me but he does not want to get into relationship again. as he wants to focus on his career. we brokeup because i used to fight over his female friends i as paranoid. bu now i have changed.. i still miss him alot but i do not tell anyone. when he is alone with me he cant resist kissing me and he cried too after breakup and said he wants to marry me but he cant promise anything as he is uncertain about his future. give me advice how should i ask him to get back together. any thing that will melt his heart and he will come back to me

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  What is wrong with me

  • 29 Nov 2011
  • Posted by linsenhofen

  I recently found out that I have a Love Obsession. It has been nearly 2 years long of heartache and wondering why it has not let up. I found a really good book that was written by Susan Forward called, "Love Obses...

  I recently found out that I have a Love Obsession. It has been nearly 2 years long of heartache and wondering why it has not let up. I found a really good book that was written by Susan Forward called, "Love Obsession, when it hurts too bad to let go" Yes, I cyberstalk, fantasize, ruminate about the good times and the bad, send him notes, gifts, cards, magazine subscriptions. When will this go away! I feel crazy and like it will stay with me forever. I am tormenting myself. He wants nothing to do with me. I am ready to embrace the positive but where is it. I do admit that I am feeling a bit better. I do not want to do antidepressants. Am I just kidding myself by not medicating?

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  Starting to see the light....

  • 17 Sep 2011
  • Posted by starr0329

  I just realized that today makes 1 month since we broke up. Its funny how time flies. I have come to realize that he was never the one for me, we were never meant to be, and he was never the end all be all guy, he w...

  I just realized that today makes 1 month since we broke up. Its funny how time flies. I have come to realize that he was never the one for me, we were never meant to be, and he was never the end all be all guy, he was never the one I was meant to be with, and alll of this is ok. Actually its quite reassuring. I cry less and less, wonder what hes doing less and less, and Im learning to live life for me. I have been blessed with amazing family and friends that have been there with me since day 1 of this whole ordeal. I actually smile or laugh, and its not being fake, its becuase I'm actually happy. Even though I have my moments where I'll cry or just feel down about the whole thing, I think the important thing I remember is that I will love again, and that he's not it for me, he was never it. I just thought he was. Someone out there will love me, accept me, and appreciate me for just who I am, one day, and Im ok with waiting for him.

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  The Time is Now

  • 03 Sep 2011
  • Posted by Lucia17

  I recently had a discussion with a friend about everything that has happened and I realized that I am not the sad and crying girl that I was. I was able to analyze my relationship and share experiences from it with ...

  I recently had a discussion with a friend about everything that has happened and I realized that I am not the sad and crying girl that I was. I was able to analyze my relationship and share experiences from it with more reason than emotion.At one point I even laughed about it and admitted that my new cooking skills must have been his parting gift. I knew I was well and truly over it when I found myself wanting to date again. I haven't done that yet. I don't believe I'm completely ready to make that leap. I am ready to start chasing happiness again though, and that starts with me. In the months while I was recovering, I found a job walking neighborhood dogs and I spent time with people I have not seen in a long time. They asked about what had happened and I found that I was able to talk about it without feeling terrible. I kept finding things that made me happy, like reading books and trying new recipes. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the most positive thing I have gained is growth. I matured into a better person through this experience. Having your heart stomped on makes you a nicer person. It's a pity that it had to happen that way, but I don't regret becoming a kinder person. I'm also more aware of what I'm looking for in another person. There were a lot of things that ocurred in my relationship that I was not okay and I was so afraid of losing that person, that I just tolerated it. In the end, that didn't help. I am never doing that again. It's unfair to the other person and to me. I was in a store when a song came on about being better off without an ex. That song made me laugh. That's when I was absolutely sure that in time I would be happy again. I am happy with where I am right now. I am going into my final semester of college and I look forward to spending time with my friends and graduating. I am at a crossroads for work and life and I couldn't be more excited about it. I'm not sure where I'll end up or what I'll be doing in a year, but now I actually enjoy the uncertainty. Someday, I hope to find someone that will face that with me, but for now, I can chase my own happiness.

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  Living for ME

  • 03 Aug 2011
  • Posted by hopefulnikky

  Since finding out my ex was cheating on me and still with that girl, I hve tried my hardest to distract the obsessive thoughts about him and her with filling my life with positive things. I have grown a lot in my re...

  Since finding out my ex was cheating on me and still with that girl, I hve tried my hardest to distract the obsessive thoughts about him and her with filling my life with positive things. I have grown a lot in my relationship with God and my passions. I got into volunteering to help others which helped me focus on others less fortunate. This helped me realize how blessed I am for my health, and my friends. I love dance and I decided to splurge on my membership at a girly dance studio! I loved it I have regained confidence with feeling sexy in my own skin and by just being me. I have also decided to move out of my current place because it reminds me of that season with him. I am ready for a fresh adventure. I am still struggling with missing him and thinking about if he'll ever reach out to me again. I know it takes time and I am trying to let him go so I can make myself ready for the right person.

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  Ready to Let Go

  • 18 Jul 2011
  • Posted by kc2boricua

  Well 4 days ago came the news I was dreading to hear - he got engaged to someone out of the country and had only known thru phone calls and internet chats. I think after 3 days of crying on and off, I realized what ...

  Well 4 days ago came the news I was dreading to hear - he got engaged to someone out of the country and had only known thru phone calls and internet chats. I think after 3 days of crying on and off, I realized what am I doing? Would I really want him back anyways? When I imagined then in my mind how would things be if all of a sudden he came around and said he wanted us to be back together - I thought to myself I would be miserable. He's not any fun, demanding, self-absorbed, non-compassionate, and easily lies. What the heck was I thinking in the first place??? Does it still sting though that he chose somebody else? Of course...rejection hurts no matter what. Am I going to continue to put more into myself and my life now? Absolutely! Will I ever love again and let myself be vunerable to this type of pain? Well.....maybe I'll save that for Step 3, because I'm not feeling that yet. I'm closer to God know that I had been in the past and with his strength I'll get thru this and other trials along this bumpy road called life. =)

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  its been a while now

  • 29 May 2011
  • Posted by campncat

  Jan 26 our divorce was final. I had to have him served while he was back in the area in December for a jury trial (that he lost )because he moved to Tijuana Mexico. During that time his flavor of the week was suppo...

  Jan 26 our divorce was final. I had to have him served while he was back in the area in December for a jury trial (that he lost )because he moved to Tijuana Mexico. During that time his flavor of the week was supposedly pregnant and I had to give up my engagement ring to get him to step off and leave. It was hard seeing him again and he had difficulty too. The farther it gets behind me the easier its becoming and each time he tries to contact me a knot materializes in my stomach. All this time I have been working 2 jobs and planning to move because I will be losing the house I bought before we met. Much has been keeping me busy and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont wonder how he is. Bankruptcy/divorce/foreclosure. I was nailed with the trifecta but have not burst into flames so far. Yesterday a chance meeting with the grandson of a previous owner showed up at the house I am trying to sell. I am hoping this pans out. Imagine this: one check has not bounced since he left; less money stress alone is helping me sleep better. God must have grand plans for me. so far so good.

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  hello world, how u been?

  • 16 May 2011
  • Posted by agram

  i realized i cant change my past, i only can push forward to future, if my marriage isnt ment to be so be it. hello world its been a while, havent been this free in a while.

  i realized i cant change my past, i only can push forward to future, if my marriage isnt ment to be so be it. hello world its been a while, havent been this free in a while.

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