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image widowed 3 years and still grieving 14 Jun 2012 | Posted by Desert Flower 14 Jun 2012 12:06 PM
Trying to bounce back, But Im still in love with my deceased beloved.
 
 
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image 23 Jun 2012 | Posted by   23 Jun 2012 12:00 PM
desert flower, it's totally acceptable and understandable, even wonderful that you're still in love with the person you've lost. you will bounce back. i think the key is finding a way to appreciate and love them still and not trying to forget, but to try to find room in your heart to focus on other things. you aren't letting them go, you are just adding new elements to your life. also, sometimes it helps to think that this person loves you too and they would not want you to be sad or lost because of this. they would want you to be happy - so work on doing it for them. hope this helps...
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image 23 Jun 2012 | Posted by BrokenHeart33   23 Jun 2012 12:04 PM
if you were with this person a long time, 3 years might be about right for timing but who knows. i agree that the person you were with wouldn't want you to be spending too much time grieving.
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image 08 Sep 2012 | Posted by capecodmom3   08 Sep 2012 11:24 PM
have you had another losses? grief is a terrible roller coaster I wish on no-one. I gratefully still have my husband but ive had alot of loss of loved ones over the years. When i lost my older brother it took at least 6 years until i met someone and i didnt just think over & over are they goin to ask if i have siblings. do I say 3 or4. everybody has their own scale. i agree, think of your loved one not as gone but with you, supporting you to live with happiness
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