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image Kids/Step-kids (siblings) and divorce 08 May 2011 02:05 PM
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. I brought 2 children into the marriage with me and he brought 1. These three boys have grown up together and all are teenagers now. My husband has decided that he wants a divorce...he doesn't love me the same anymore and is ready to move out, taking his son with him. I dont understand how he can just do that, not only to me but to them as well. I'm devastated, for my whole family...any suggestions or advice??
 
 
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image   04 Jun 2011 08:41 PM
My situation is similar in some ways - I was with my boyfriend for 10 years and we raised my son (now 16) and his son (now 14) together for all those years. We went to family therapy to talk about how to manage sharing the kids and also to give the children a chance to speak up about their own needs. We had a male and female therapist working with us. Funny how things turned out, though - his son is still living with me and my son. Yes, I have both boys! It seemed better for them and after a few months this way we're still trying to figure many things out. I think we have to try and balance our own needs with the children's. And no, it ain't easy!
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image   10 Jul 2011 12:51 PM
My situation is similar in some ways - I was with my boyfriend for 10 years and we raised my son (now 16) and his son (now 14) together for all those years. We went to family therapy to talk about how to manage sharing the kids and also to give the children a chance to speak up about their own needs. We had a male and female therapist working with us. Funny how things turned out, though - his son is still living with me and my son. Yes, I have both boys! It seemed better for them and after a few months this way we're still trying to figure many things out. I think we have to try and balance our own needs with the children's. And no, it ain't easy!
Since my original post, my husband and stepson have moved out. We are still working on making sure that the kids see each other and see us too. Its tough and I struggle with it.
Good luck to your family too!
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